How about some fun time with toys?

  

    Bringing toys into your relationship

There are many benefits from using toys and props in your scenes. They add a nice element to help bring on both your head-space and that of your submissive. They are incredibly pleasurable and can do things that a single Dominant cannot. This IS a good thing, tops!

      Certain props can mean certain things! You can have items that are for punishments only, and items that are for rewards only. You can have a whole range of toys to play with, each of which would make you both very happy. I will list some ideas for you below.

Gags

If you live in an apartment, you may want to silence your submissive somehow. There will be times when he or she cannot help but be loud, and not always in a good way. 

To make sure no one calls the police because they mistakenly think someone is being raped and murdered, it may be a good idea to get a gag or two. 

As gags can hurt your submissive's jaw, make sure to get one that is both comfortable and the correct size. 

Here are a few options for you

  •         Stuff her panties in her mouth!
  •         Buy a Ball Gag, they are cheap!
  •         Spider Gags to hold his/her mouth open
  •         Duct tape! (Be careful)
  •         Rope, Scarfs, length of Fabric with a knot for in the mouth
  •         Funnel Gags
  •         Pacifier
  •         Penis Gag

Collar

You can have many different collars for different situations. A collar can symbolize what degree of submission is expected from him or her. 

You can have punishment collars, formal collars, public collars, and collars with locks on them even collars designed to tie your sub in place and hold her there! 

The symbolism behind collars is great and beautiful, often people in D/s relationships use them in place of the traditional wedding ring.

Cuffs

Some people make their subs or slaves wear cuffs and a collar 24/7. This is so they can easily be restrained. You can lock her arms behind her back. Tie to anything you wish. 

Lock her legs together, or apart. They will make your submissive feel safe and owned, and of course give you far more control over her body. 

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs can be very intense in many ways. You can have your submissive stuffed close to 24/7 if you want, so long as you take good care of him or her. 

You can get ones with tails; glass ones, pretty ones, painful ones, large ones, vibrating ones. You can use them for her pleasure and your own. 

You can use them to punish, and to teach obedience. It all just depends on what size, type and how you use them.

Clamps or Pegs.

You can get clamps for your submissive's nipples, tongue, clitoris or anything else you want to control, or inflict pain on. There are so many options for clamps. 

Again, for punishment or for pleasure. You can attach weights to clamps on her labia or nipples. You can hold her open for you. Perhaps just humiliate him or her in various ways. Be creative, he or she needs it!

They can also be great for letting arousal build throughout the day so that your submissive is nice and ready when you get home!

Blindfolds

Take away her senses and you will find that all the others are heightened. The intimacy will intensify and you will both be closer than ever.

There are many things you can use, but you want to make sure that whatever it is blocks his or her vision fully, as well... This is the point.

Other ideas for toys

  •            Floggers, whips, canes, blunt knives, pin wheels.
  •            Dog beds (for sleep at your feet or on the floor), dog bowls or dog leads.
  •            DILDOS!!! Things that vibrate! How better for you to punish with pleasure.
  •            Anything that brings on a head-space. (Petplay, Little space, Slave Space.)

Caring for your gear

As a Dominant it is important that you take good gear of everything you own, your lovely submissive being the most important of all!

But no, your toys really do need to be looked after well to make sure that they do not harbor any nasty bacteria. 

Always clean your gear well after each and every session, use condoms to shield them from bodily fluids if you ever intend on using anything on more than one submissive.

Your gear is something you should pride yourself in, taking good care of it is proof that you are a strong and firm dominant who will always take care of himself, his things and his submissive.

 
“I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you're into leather.” 
― Margaret Cho


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