Surrender I think is something that seems almost simple until you actually try it. Those times when you genuinely don't think your other half is right, but you still step back and let him or her make the decision. Of course this does not go for super serious decisions or in areas you did not agree upon. It is purely consensual and done with love and trust.

I am learning to surrender and I am scared. The amount of faith and trust I have to have in my Husbands ability to care for me and the household is really something else. We are taking it slow, so nothing is too intense. But I know one day that I will be letting go of everything and I am not totally sure what to expect.

To know that He will be there for me, with my well-being as his top priority

In order to surrender I need to know without a doubt that my Husband will actually be there with everything. This means he places me first. I am simply too much of a modern woman to agree to anything less. I will not be walked over, I will not be neglected and I will not be treated carelessly. He will get the amount of surrender and submission that he earns, that is final. I think it should be this way with everyone, or else you are not taking steps to make sure you are safe.

Still the concept of actually being able to let go excites me. To actually have that much trust and faith in someones ability to care for you. See I am not going to lie and pretend that my husband and I have this perfect D/s relationship where I do trust him like that. I don't, I have the same amount of trust needed to make a vanilla relationship flow, but currently not enough to make a D/s one work. This is normal for anyone when they start out, it is something you really have to work on.

Giving up your mind, body and soul to someone is not something you should ever take lightly, nor is it something you should make light of. It is easy to say the words "I am your possession, Master." But to actually mean them with all your heart is a different thing altogether.

Complete Honesty

Surrender requires honesty, not just with your partner but also with yourself. I know what it is like to want something so deeply that you convince yourself it is the case, but if you are being honest with yourself... Do you really think it is a simple task to give up your own decisions and choices under all circumstances? To have to speak your opinion with respect, rather than just saying it normally? To be told to go to bed when you genuinely do not want to? To be made to kneel in the corner when you know you have something else that needs doing. To be silenced with a gag and told you will not be speaking for the next 4 hours?

It is something that requires absolute trust and vulnerability. It requires a partner who knows you perfectly and has only your best intentions in mind. Someone that you are safe with, someone that will never hurt you (Unless S/M) someone that will guard you with everything he or she has.

It is totally normal and to be expected that you do not have this right away. Keep in my I am speaking for 24/7 relationship dynamics, not BDSM scenes and sex. Although the trust needs to be there for that also. But surrender in your day to day life is really a beautiful and wonderful thing, but something that takes time to develop,