It's not all fun and games: Spanking as a punishment
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So you want to try Punishment Spanking?
You came to the right place, here you shall find everything you need to know on this simple, beautiful and effective act.
Spanking is
a good general punishment. Although Spanking can be used for fun, sex or just
because you both feel like it, it is most definitely an effective punishment also.
Now, because it can be used in other ways, make sure that you let your submissive know
that this will be a punishment spanking, and it is not meant to be fun or pleasurable.
The basics of Punishment Spanking are as follows.
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Confront. Let your submissive know why this is
happening, what is about to happen, and what you expect the outcome to
be.
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Position. Position your submissive. There are many good positions you can use and each have different benefits. Some examples are over the
knee, kneeling or asking her to lean over the bed. You may want to restrain him/her
if you feel he/she will wiggle or try to escape. (Movement may mean hitting the wrong place!)
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Warm up. This can be done in a few different
ways. You can start your spanking soft and gradually get harder, or perhaps start with him/her clothed to cushion the blows. Warming up is very important!
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Follow through. Always follow through with your punishment. You can go easier on him/her if needed, but remember you are the one in control and your submissive is being taught a lesson. If he/she safe-words then stop right away, but remember that punishment is not fun and you may very likely encounter begging or crying.
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Aftercare. Give him/her a small massage afterwards,
perhaps rub some ointment to help with any bruising, or pain she may experience
afterwards! Remember kind words and cuddles, is it very important that your submissive feels safe and protected after any punishment, no matter how small.
“I want to spank you, but also want to know you want it. I need to hear it sweetheart, tell me you deserve it…” ― Felicity Brandon, Friday's Lesson
Remember Dominants, It's all in the head!
Remember
that like any punishment, the psychological side is equally, if not more
important! You need to make him/her feel naughty, guilty and bad. This is not a fun
game, this is punishment, and it is serious. Get inside his/her head! Make him/her
FEEL, really truly feel!
Every inch of your submissive's mind and body needs to know
that you are teaching and training him/her. He/she needs to know what he/she is. He/she is
yours! He/she shall not disobey you again. You own his/her body and his/her mind. Make him/her
KNOW that!
He/she is your slave, your object, your pet, your plaything, your slut,
your whore, your fuck doll, your beautiful little perfect angel… But he/she is yours and
you will do with him/her as YOU please. Some ideas, tips and tricks for you are as follows.
- Call him/her names! (BAD boy/girl, dirty little whore, disobedient little slut, etc.)
- Let him/her know who owns him/her. (How DARE you disobey me! Do you care THAT little for your –Husband/Sir/Master/Owner/etc.)
- Make him/her feel possessed. (You are MY slave/toy/Etc. Why are you disobeying me. I OWN you and you WILL do as I say, or you WILL be punished again!)
- Make him/her come to you for the punishments. Make her hand you the tools and clean them after.
- Make him/her thank you after every blow.
- Make him/her count each blow.
- Make him/her knee before you and ask you to punish her.
- Remember even though you may be cruel now, you are doing it because you love her. Make sure you let him/her know this too!
- Make him/her scream, beg, cry or whimper! If he/she is not doing any of these, then your spanking may not have been effective at all!
Your safeword is the most important thing. This should only ever be done between two consenting adults, and it is a serious no no if anyone is being placed in a position they are genuinely not consenting to or comfortable with.
Make sure to check out my post on Spanking Basics!
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